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 13:53 | 23/Dec/2007 | 7 Comment(s)
Yes its Christmas !!!


CHRISTMAS !!!



Joy to the
world ! Santa Claus is coming to town ? yes Christmas is near & very dear
to all of us, a festive we all look forward to, the mood, the topic of
discussions, making sweets, carol singing, making party schedules, plans,
making up our minds what gifts to buy, dressing up the Christmas Tree, the
house,  shopping, Mid-Night Mass in the
bitter cold, every one in their best costumes & dressed to kill ! everything
revolves around for a few days before & until Christmas.



Its fun
unlimited !  starts from the Thanks
giving day and remains until the boxing day of 1st week January. Its
great,  cheers to just feel and be happy
about. Looking forward to meet friends and relatives who have been missed the
whole year through either being far away or just NO time. Its great and
wonderful for the spirit of Christmas to be drowned in this kind of atmosphere
where everyday there is something to look forward to from morning till
night.    



Cheers ! Yes
its Christmas and wishing everyone Merry Christmas & Seasons Best
Compliments ! have fun folks – Enjoy





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 11:51 | 23/Dec/2007 | 2 Comment(s)
ART OF BEING A HYPOCRITE







HYPOCRITE ?HYPOCRISY !!!



Nach Baliye ? Last night finals
were a real curtain raiser as to how much a person can go through the act &
drama of hypocrisy?



We have Rakhi Sawant
telling the world, requesting her so called millions of fans to VOTE for her? Fine its allright & we
saw enough of her tamasha in all the episodes but yesterday’s final countdown tamasha was the
best & surreal!  All thro the evening
during the show her act was weird with strange mannerisms & murmuring with
prayers & clutching religious items, seeking divine intervention! To help
her win?



I feel she or many of us don’t
know that ‘GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES’ Only prayers and clutching
religious articles will not guarantee you success or winning ?  GOD will help you for sure if you are sincere
in your endeavors & have worked hard and most importantly if you are
inclined and deserved to WIN? In the end what happened? When she came to know
that she did not WIN? She just walked off? Why this sort of HYPOCRISY? When
millions of viewers across the globe are watching? Where is the HUMILITY?  To be a Sport in accepting defeat in a graceful
manner & may the best who deserved to win should WIN? Winning or Loosing is
there in all competition and all walks of LIFE and one must accept defeat and
failure gracefully. Its part & parcel of one’s life in everyday day to day
living.  We have to be a sport and accept
that maybe the other deserved to WIN due to different factors & not only by
reciting your prayers for hours and holding religious items ?  If that was the case then she has insulted
those very prayers & religious articles she was holding by walking in a
huff and not believing in them anymore as it did not suit her purpose any
longer ? If this is not hight of being a hypocrite HYPOCRISY then what it is? Not staying back to
participate further in the concluding ceremony where she has deprived the
WINNER of the limelight which has come though sheer hard work, with best wishes
of their loved family & friends, & not to forget the millions of people
who have voted for them which they deserved, coupled with their respective faith
& prayers.



Prayers HELP, have faith
in them and work hard for your goals but it should not be a tamasha of hypocrisy
which we have just witnessed.



 



 





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 15:14 | 17/Dec/2007 | 7 Comment(s)
BLOG

I frequently visit and read the many blogs that my friends and others keep on writing, & I also find requests to the add-ons for new friends.  What I find peculiar is that each new member is bombarded with the add-ons to be their friends and they keep on increasing & you just find that all the many friends are inter related with the same blogs and same friends !!! only difference is in the number of friends ? click any one member/friend and u will find the link going back & forth coming back to you where it all started ? funny ? do we need to just add on our list so many friends ? without caring to at least communicate with few of them ?

Yes we all need friends, new or old  existing ones, but do we really care to pursue this new friendship on the BLOG? or is it that we want 2 know in our list how many friends do we have ? some of the add-ons have just added me 2 their list, without even bothering 2 say even a simple ‘Hi’ ? yet I see their visits !!! Some very rare are kind enough to encourage & write their comments which does make a difference.  Other wise there is absolute no inter-action, its just going monotonous.  What is a blog after all ? giving one’s thoughts ? freedom of ex-pression ? adding new friends ? In the beginning I was exited as a child when I just started to blog, but as days go by, the excitement is going, cause everyone is just bothered or time wrapped up in their own cocoon world without giving a moment or thought for others !!! everyone is just writing & writing like filling up pages in their  diary or scrap book! for others to read?  But frankly, honestly I don’t think all what is written is really read !!!  Truth hurts and I know I might be getting a lot of flak for writing this, but this is my own experience,  observations and this is what I feel about & wanted to express, after all what is BLOG ? I don’t know myself ! am confused NUT !!! But still give a thought, it might HELP atleast a few ?

 

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 11:29 | 12/Dec/2007 | 1 Comment(s)
WE ARE INDIANS !



I & we all know and have heard of this before, but still take an insight and identify many of these !!!



1.
Everything you eat is savored in either garlic, onion, coconut or tomatoes.


2. You try and reuse gift wrappers, gift boxes, and of
course aluminum foil.


3. You are Always standing next to the two largest
size suitcases at the Airport.


4. You arrive one or two hours late to a party - and
think it's normal.


5. You peel the stamps off letters that the Postal
Service missed to stamp.


6. You recycle Wedding Gifts, Birthday Gifts and
Anniversary Gifts.


7. You name your children in rhythms (example, Natasha
& Nikita, Rajesh & Rajeshwari, Shashi & Nishi, etc…)


8. All your children have pet names, which sound no
where, close to their real names.


9. You take Indian snacks anywhere it says "No
Food Allowed"


10. You talk for an hour at the front door when leaving
someone's house.


11. You load up the family car with as many people as
possible.


12. You use plastic to cover anything new in your
house whether it's the remote control, VCR, Phone, carpet or new couch.


13. Your parents tell you not to care what your
friends think, but they won't let you do certain things because of what the
other "Uncles and Aunties" will think.


14. You buy and display crockery, which is never used,
as it is for special occasions, which never happen.


15. You have a vinyl tablecloth on your kitchen table.


16. You use grocery bags to hold garbage.

17. You keep leftover food in your fridge in as many
numbers of bowls as possible.


18. Your kitchen shelf is full of jars, varieties of
bowls and plastic utensils (got free with purchase of other stuff)


19. You carry a stash of your own food whenever you
travel (and travel means any car ride longer than 15 minutes).


20. You own a rice cooker or a pressure cooker.

21. You fight over who pays the dinner bill.

22. You live with your parents and you are 40 years
old. (And they prefer it that way).


23. You don't use measuring cups when cooking.

24. You never learnt how to stand in a queue.

25. You can only travel if there are 5 persons at
least to see you off or receive you whether you are traveling by bus, train or
plane.


26. If she is NOT your daughter, you always take
interest in knowing whose daughter has run with whose son and feel proud to
spread it at the velocity of more than the speed of light.


27. You only make long distance calls after
11
p.m.


28. If you don't live at home, when your parents call,
they ask if you've eaten, even if it's
midnight.

29. You call an older person you never met before
Uncle or Aunty."


30. When your parents meet strangers and talk for a
few minutes, you discover you're talking to a distant cousin.


31. Your parents don't realize phone connections to
foreign countries have improved in the last two decades, and still scream at
the top of their lungs when making foreign calls.


32. You have bed sheets on your sofas so as to keep
them from getting dirty.


33. Its embarrassing if your wedding has less than 600
people.


34. All your Tupperware is stained with food color.

35. You have drinking glasses made of steel.

36. You have mastered the art of bargaining in
shopping

37. There are many more & u can list ! cause we are Indians !!!



 



 



 



 



 





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 11:53 | 9/Dec/2007 | 1 Comment(s)
Pessimist ?


Pessimist ? No I am not, I am a
true Libran & always carry a B+ positive frame of mind. Seldom Librans are
pessimist !  yes but we are sensitive by
nature and we get hurt very easily, that’s why my tirade about ‘love’ that I
have been writing about.



Hurt
comes in many ways and forms, not necessarily physical, but emotional &
sentiments, they leave a deep scar which at times refuses to heal or takes some
time 2 become ok until such a time that things are back 2 again being normal (abnormal
?) . Some of the hurts that we go thro are for no fault of ours & never
gets healed and they carry all thro your life…..



Hurt
is when things go wrong, Nothing goes right according to the plans or the
promises that we make, when u do everything in this world, your every time
& effort, your every sacrifice, you give everything you have,  you become selfless, you give all the undying love
& affection & yet things does not go as it should have been, you try
hard and give time & everything else in this world but things just does not
happen as the way it should have been in spite of sacrifices that goes into
building a relationship, & I mean in any form, norm or kind of
relationship.



Relationship
does not have a ‘name’ it could be any,



But
hurt hurts, its pains, only a person who has gone thro or going thro, no matter
what & when the circumstances are or could be.  No I am not a pessimist, its just that these
days I do see things in different perspective and look forward that these dark
days will not last forever and there will b someone, somewhere, who will b
there for me to take care of my wounds, the hurt and the pains, Nothing could
be too late, time does not matter, & I will find someone even if it could
be at a later part of my life, end of my time ? or only for some time, for
having someone to care, to love is the best moment a person can cherish or have
in one’s life time, to love & to be loved, to understand and be
understood,  still I am positive &
sure of it… cause I am B+ Positive ! Not a Pessimist ? Hope & confidence I shall
always have.  Live & love, this life
is only once and you live only once, even if we die a thousand death sometimes
! kal kisne dekha hai ? hum rahen ya na rahen.





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 10:35 | 6/Dec/2007 | 3 Comment(s)
ABCDEFG

I read this somewhere, & found 2 b interesting ?

Do you know the meaning of:


ABCDEFG

A Boy Can Do Everything For Girl.



Reverse the meaning of:

GFEDCBA

Girls forget Everything Done, Catches New Boy Again !!!




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 14:51 | 1/Dec/2007 | 4 Comment(s)
To Ponder about ?


This
is dedicated to someone who writes 2 me often,



Just
for some smiles & laughter….. for I have been told that I am a Pessimist
& 2 B+ positive, so here I am trying 2 b. am I ?



Probably
this might have been read before, but still….excuse me. Think & ponder about.





Wrong ? Definitions of Marriage ?





There are two times when a man doesn't understand a
woman

Before marriage and after marriage.





Marriage
is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to
decide which one.





Marriage
is an  institution where two people come
together to joint solve the problems they never had before they got married.





Married
life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the
woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the
third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.





Getting
married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends.  You order
what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had
ordered that.





"Before
marriage, a man yearns for the woman he loves.

After marriage, the ‘Y’ becomes silent."





Love
may be blind, but marriage is a real Eye Opener ?





The trouble with some women is that they get all
excited about nothing (and then they marry him).



 



 



 



 





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 10:42 | 29/Nov/2007 | 6 Comment(s)
Feelings


Feelings ………………



There
is so much 2 say but few to listen.



There
is so much 2 see but no time to explore.



There
is so much to care but no one 2 bother.



There
is so much of love but no one 2 take. 



There
is so much of loneliness but no one to share. 



There
is so much of pain but no one 2 care



There
is so much of tears but no one 2 feel



There
is so much of life but no one 2 walk



There
is so much of sadness but no one 2 talk





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 10:55 | 26/Nov/2007 | 2 Comment(s)
Thoughts



Couple
of days back I posted a blog on Love & relationship, I know am aware that
it is not the norm, but yes in general it is the way it goes on.



Love
is pure, sublime, it’s a different high altogether and it lasts a life time,
till death does us apart. & there are many stories & tales where love
has triumphed, love has conquered.



But
in this modern materialistic world has being in love been the same? I am no
author to give my inputs or insights, or teach anyone but these are my inner
thoughts of ex-pression of what I see around & feel. 



What
I meant is that these days any infatuation culminates into love, we think we
are, & create an illusion; we feel it is when it is not.  



Look
at the headlines these past few months and one would know what I mean? Is this Love?
Love is to live and let the other live, Love means sacrifice, Love is caring
not for yourself but for the other, Love is selfless but not selfish, Love is
ether, eternal, a new beginning a new meaning comes in suddenly into your still
& morbid life, love is not materialistic, love is never to hurt anyone,
love means that you love the other more then your own self? You don’t say I
love myself? Do you? You say I love you? Means the other? How can u destruct your
love when you say and believe you life is in love? Pretty strange and makes it obvious
for different people who they say love is everything? & yet it is NOT. Yes
we do need love, who would not want 2? But we would not just survive on mere love;
there are other aspects as well and we have to nature love all along the way….if you want your love to survive, you can’t
simply take love for granted…& never should….



 



 



 





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 15:04 | 24/Nov/2007 | 3 Comment(s)
Lets Think about ?



Love,
used, abused, misused, this word has been different to different people ? Love
we say is BLIND, but is it ? yes its BLIND without any misconception….. we just
happen to like after seeing or meeting or by a mere phone call or thro
emails… we just let go & let it happen, nothing really matters, nothing
makes sense, just be in love and forget the rest, we even forget our families,
who gives us birth and bring us up with great difficulties, passion, emotions
& sentiments, they invest in us more then anything can be measured in any
terms, yet when we are in love, we forget them, we ignore them, we don’t think
its necessary for them 2 know what changes cud bring in their life in the near
future, all that matters is US, WE, cause we are in LOVE ? we are even willing
to leave our parents, for what we call LOVE ? we just forget even our own
selves but only think, dream, visualize the other when we are in love, we don’t
even want 2 know what the other person is ? we just don’t bother or want 2 know,
important is when do we meet, how do meet, where do we meet ? how often and
when do we communicate, heaven is that mere touch, the smiles, the laughter, anything
& everything said becomes poetry and phrase ! anything else done is called
LOVE ? & time comes 2 such a situation that we feel we can no longer live
without each other one another ? and then jump to get married & we do ! And
how ? the vows of ‘Better or for worst’ comes later !



One
week, of this being in LOVE and getting married, the myth, the realities, the
truth, which was no sense at that time becomes now 2 see sense in each other,
reality bites ! not 2 know about each other much before, becomes with oh I did
not know u were like this ? communication is snapped & myth that LOVE is
BLIND comes true to the fore and stares HARD on the face like a mirror ? why I did
not know things ? its hard to understand the each others language with writing on the wall
of why & how becomes a daily part of life to be carried, for years 2 come of
compromises, With compromises comes children ? with children comes again
compromises ? it’s a full circle ? where has LOVE gone? where is the LOVE the
way it was ? bitter truth being we were BLIND….Love is there of course but hard
to see, it becomes ether & difficult to experience like before, to know if
we really love one another ? to say and hear I love you was like pure magic on
the ears, it felt like heaven once upon a time now becomes, how did I really loved
u ? life moves on and withers away turning those days and nights into years and
we just walk pass by with one another, hanging on with COMPROMISES when we didn’t
in the first place LOVE one another but or was it a mere infatuation ? mistaken for
love ?



One
mistake called infatuation of liking someone, somebody, is redundant all thro
our lives where we thought, assumed, dreamt, felt that we were in LOVE ?  but then life has gone, just passed by, now we
just await and sit by the window, pondering, looking at others, feeling were we wrong ?  or want 2 fall in Love all over again ?



 





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